“Men and Women are not prisoners of fate but prisoners of their own mind” –Franklin D. Roosevelt

Research has shown that human mind has enormous power capable of producing miraculous outcomes. But sadly we use only 10 % of what we are bestowed upon by the almighty.

Have you ever wondered, before a child learns the basic mathematical addition formally, his mind is already computing speed and distance with the blink of an eye? He is able to assess the risk when he attempts his first jump. There are numerous such examples which will baffle you as you observe the capabilities of his tiny neural network. Isn’t it something worth nurturing? As a parent we must involve in the best practices that help in the right growth of the child.

I don’t deny that we  always consciously endeavor to make our children stand out among peers. We constantly strive hard to enroll them in the best schools and provide them the life’s best possible things.   But unintentionally we commit mistakes that affects the growth of tiny minds adversely. The first three years of a child’s age are the most important years where they learn life’s essential lessons. The most common of the parenting mistakes we commit are when our children are in their infancy. Scientific research has shown that by the time a child reaches three years of age, his brain grows to 80% in volume, of what an adult has.  Hence, it becomes all the more necessary that we reflect on the things that we do results in the slowing of the development cycle.

Children develop their cognitive skills by observing their surroundings. And in the early days, they try to imitate everything they have observed and absorbed. The use of right words is the key at this juncture. If we consistently encourage our children to better themselves when they fail, it makes them believe that the world doesn’t end at failures. We must use the positive words to appreciate the efforts they have put to achieve something. Sometimes the situations become so overwhelming that people tend to abuse kids by criticizing their abilities. Such children in the longer run develop a fear that restricts them from exploring opportunities and they easily succumb to pressure situations.

The second most important aspect in the growth of the child’s mind is nurturing their imaginative powers. Einstein once said, “If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales.”. In our country storytelling by grandparents was like a custom. Now ever since the gadgets are available they have taken over this old ritual. The use of gadgets has a very impairing impact on the brain growth. No matter how bad your day was at work, no matter how tired you are, refrain yourself from leaving   your children with tabs, mobile or laptops. Take out time to narrate stories to boost their thinking power.

Third and the most vital thing is to keep the conversations going. The more the child hears, more his language skills boost. The sharpest of the minds are those who are inquisitive in nature. It’s interesting to see that all the children are born with this never quenching desire to know why and how of the things surrounding them.  So as a parent we must keep their spirits high, encourage them when they pose questions, and keep explaining till they are satisfied.

I hope with a few simple changes in our thought process and behavior we will be able to keep the small minds ignited and prevent them from being prisoners of their own mind!